Thursday, June 27, 2013

The One Where She Posts After a REALLY Long Time

I cross my heart and hope to die, there are 5 posts started but yet unfinished in my draft folder.

I would deem something "post worthy" and start it only to be dragged away by something more important and by the time I'd get back to it, it wasn't all that interesting after all. 

But, it's been so long since I've posted, I'm going to muddle through a random catcha up post. It will be oh so very interesting (hardly) and life changing (snort), you will wonder how on earth I've been away so long.

It is over. Both public and homeschooling. All four kids did well and frankly, I'm glad the morning battle of getting 2 out the door and 2 up and ready to start school is over.

It is here. Whether I like it or not. I hate being hot. Being hot makes me cranky. Being cranky makes everyone around me cranky.
I will be honest and say that the first 2 weeks of summer being dark and gloomy did not hurt my feelings at all. It was rather nice. However, the kids are going ape crazy. They are fighting non-stop and so very bored. So far, we have set one new rule. If you say the words "It's not fair!" or "I have nothing to do", you will be shown life is not fair and I will find you something to do and you will not like it.
Seriously, I'm DONE with the whining.

Husband's Work:
He is back at it, full time. He actually went back in April but...cough, cough...I don't think I've posted since he went back.
He was actually on vacation this week.
Let me just say--while I love my husband dearly and I enjoy spending time with him, I do not know how we will ever survive retirement. I feel horribly guilty about not wanting to be with him 24/7 but...well, I don't.

My Work:
I've cut down my working to 3 days a week. Seems to be somewhat reasonable. I like my job, still. But, I also like, and miss, being at home. We are thinking that I will do it for one more year. We should have the rest of our debt paid off at the beginning of next year and want to save for Disneyland in November of 2014. Going with my folks and my brother and his family! But, that's alot of clams to save. And, really, you can't pay in clams so we need to save some money, too.

One of the posts in the draft folder was about a resident that is abusive to the aides. And, when I say abusive, I mean it. She has physically threatened me with scissors, ran my feet over with her power scooter, and spat at me. But, verbally she is way more powerful. Horrible.
To the point where I was having nightmares and making myself sick to my stomach. But, lest you think I was singled out, don't you worry! She was like that to everyone.
In Feb., she was given a 30 day eviction notice. However, legally, you can't just throw an 80 yr old crippled woman out on the street. Legally, she was entitled to appeals and court appearances. But, finally, the judge decided that indeed, she needed to move out. She should be out by the time I return to work on Monday. I can't even begin to tell you the weight that has been lifted.  From me personally but also from the whole establishment where I work.

My Son's Work:
Yup. My son is "working" this summer. He is 14.  His best friend, who is 17, is running his own lawn care business. He picks Jayce up in the mornings, they work all day, and Jayce is home by the time I need to go to work,on my work days, to watch his siblings.
He is getting up early and working very hard. And while it's not a job that he receives a pay check, he is making money (cash) and not sitting around complaining about not having anything to do.

His father and I have witnessed some struggles between Jayce and his friend. For the most part, we've let them handle it themselves and some lessons have been learned. But, we've told him, put the friendship before the money and you will not regret it. We love his friend like a member of our own family and would hate to see anything happen where he wasn't around, mooching all our food and putting his feet up on our furniture.

Summer Plans:
None. Not really. I do have my 20th high school reunion this coming up weekend. Sorta looking forward to that. We had one at 10 yrs but I discovered 10 yrs. isn't enough time for everyone to grow up. Some of us had but the majority had not and that was not fun. But, I think we are pretty much in the same place now. Some of us with older kids, some with younger. Some on our 2nd (or even 3rd) marriages, some not even thinking about it. But, sadly, it's the ones that are deceased that will be missed and the reason why we are doing it in the first place. You never know when the "last time I saw you" will truly be the last time.

You are all caught up. 
You can check that off your list because I know surely I was on there.


  1. A ton of stuff going on in your life!! And I am glad that horrible mean woman will be GONE from your life. It sounds horrible.

    Good luck with summer. :)

  2. But you were! I saw your comment and thought "well where the heck has she been?" and here you are! Yippiee!

    I also hate being hot. So much so that on a 99 degree day, I trucked a free standing (you know the ones that are about the size of a small refrigerator and don't go in the window...) air conditioner up from the basement BY MYSELF. I got to the top two stairs of the basement, sat down and used my body as leverage to slide it up over my body and then swing it around so I could get the base of it onto the landing. My plan would have worked perfectly had it not (A) weighed about 150 pounds squishing the life breath out of me and (B) been so hot that it literally stuck to me and gave me road rash over my entire front girl parts as I "swung" it around.

    Good times my friend. Good times.

    Seriously, by the time I had it in place and working, there was NO WAY I was lugging the other one from the garage. I tacked a sheet up across the kitchen door and kicked it old school in my living room. Dinner on the couch, anyone?

    And in the days since... it has rained every stinking day.

  3. I'm just going to go ahead and jump to the reunion part because (obviously) it cracked me up that everything was plural and we both know that there weren't enough kids in your class to have more than one person under every heading you gave... LOL It *should* have gone like this:

    ONE with older kids, ONE with younger kids, ONE on their first marriage, ONE on their second, and ONE on their third, etc. ;) {I kid, I kid - my class is the exact same so I don't know why I'm teasing you - I went to our 10th and it was a joke (I think some people thought it was a drinking party, but Jeff and I - and our kids - didn't get that memo).}

    Anyway, so glad you posted! I've been thinking of you! I'm so happy that Judd is back at work (and Jace, too - awesome!) and that that snaggy old lady got the boot and will leave you alone. I saw a lady in Fred Meyer a few months ago and ohmygoodness, she was just AWFUL (like so awful that you don't even want to be around her, but you just.can', this makes me wonder if it was the same lady.

    PS - I hate being hot, too. Summer is just a means to Fall in my opinion. :)

  4. Sounds like things are going well. Let me encourage you, that if you can't stand your husband for just a week at home how will you do retirement? It's very serious. I hope I didn't take it the wrong way. My partner and I had two solid years together and when he went back to work it was so difficult. I miss him so much and vice versa. I can't wait til those retirement years so we can be together non-stop again. I am so glad we had that "trial run" of being together. It brought us closer together and solidified our relationship.


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