Thursday, October 7, 2010


On this hand:  You want me to babysit your 3 1/2 yr. old over night?  This week? The week my husband is out of town?  Are you out of your freaking mind?  Do you have any idea how tired I am??

On the other hand:  Seriously, it's not a big deal.  Of course I will. He will have fun, he will play with the boys and I will probably have more free time because of it.  I'm honored you'd ask.

On this hand:  OH!?  The one night has turned into 2 nights and 3 whole days?  Talk about taking advantage!

On the other hand:  Really, all things said, one extra kid doesn't make that  much of a difference.  Like I said before, he plays well with the other boys, they keep each other occupied.  And, he's used to being here, I will have no problems. You guys go, have a good time. 

On this hand:  You aren't leaving any food for him?  I am keeping him for 3 days, I have a very limited budget for food for my own family and you are not even leaving a loaf of bread?  Milk?  NOTHING??  Not even an insincere offer?

On the other hand:  How much does a 3 1/2 yr. old eat anyways?  Not enough to really matter, in the big scheme of things. My husband is gone, there is no way your little boy will even come close to making up my husband's share of the food.  Don't worry about it!  It's not that big of a deal to make another PB&J.

  Do you ever say "Yes" to something only because you don't have a good reason to say no?  Then, you complain, to whoever will listen, that these people did "this" to you. But, you're the one that said yes.  Because it's not a big deal?  But, yet it IS a big deal? 
But, then you feel stupid for complaining because you really DO love your friends and the little boy is REALLY not a problem.  And, you WANT to be the one that everyone wants for a babysitter.  You really DO want your house to be THE house that all the kids want to go to.  Anything like this ever happen to you?  Yeah. Happens all the time here.


  1. Hail-yes! I'm the "Yes Queen," and it's a big no-no. I'm pretty sure I have an issue with not being able to tell people no (and on the super rare instance that I actually do, I feel guilty for it f.o.r.e.v.e.r.).

    I could have written this post exactly (well, not as eloquently, lol) but I have SO been there - and then felt bad that I didn't want to do it, and then felt bad that I felt bad when I really had a good reason not to do it this time, and then felt bad that I didn't just say no. Over and over. It drives Jeff crazy...

    I think we're called "Martha's..." ;)

  2. You could tell this person that you'd love to keep him, and to bring food because you fed your kids last week and there won't be anything until next week because of your new regimen....

  3. Yes. It used to happen to me all the time. I've turned into a bit of a hermit, so I rarely have that problem anymore.

    Not that I'm advising you to turn into a hermit... :O)


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