Sunday, May 6, 2012

A Little Skin

Saturday, while sitting and enjoying my daughter's soccer game, I noticed (along with all the other parents at the field) a little girl wandering about. She was probably about 3, a little adorable African-American girl. 

She was so lost, she wandered out in to the soccer game, almost getting ran over by the girls playing the game.

Yet, no one made any attempt to help her, or ask where her parents were. She continued to wander. 

I hesitated to help her. Perhaps her parents were watching and just didn't care? Perhaps she would start to cry or scream if I attempted to help her? All these fears came in to my head and it kept me from acting.

Then, I realized, "This is stupid. If this was one of my children, what would I want a stranger to do?"

So, I approached the little girl, being very careful not to touch her, as I didn't want to be accused of anything, later. Even though there were plenty of witnesses. (Isn't it so sad, that this is what our world has come to? Sigh...another post for another time, perhaps).

"Hi there! Where is your mommy or daddy?"

"They are at home."

"Oh, ok. Well, did you come here with a grown up?"

"My grandma!"

"Ok, where is she? Do you know?"

"No! I can't find her!"

"Well, what was she wearing? Do you remember?"

"She is my grandma with a rainbow on."

"A rainbow?  Ok."

I look around, don't see anyone with a rainbow.  I hesitate to ask the next question:

"Sweety, does your grandma have skin like me?  Or, skin like you?"  thinking at least that would narrow the search down a bit. 

Her reply is absolutely perfect.  It made my day.  Totally.

"She has grandma skin." 

"Ok, so we are looking for a grandma with a rainbow and grandma skin. Got it. Let's go over here."

As I walked around with this little girl, plenty of people watched me but never once offered any help or suggestions.

Finally, a lady calls out:  "Jada!!  Get over here!"  And, off my new little friend went. No "thank you" or apologies or explanations from the Rainbow Grandma. She was totally unaware, uncaring that her grandchild had wandered around a good 10 min, almost getting knocked over by a herd of 3rd grade Soccer Survivors, intent on getting on with their game as to move on to their snacks of Oreos and Capri Suns. (because, who brought snacks and what are they? is the most important part of the game. Trust me on this) . 

Every parent has a bad day (or two. or more.) and I like to think this Grandma was having a bad day. 

With that rainbow and all , you'd think she'd be a touch more cheery.


  1. "Grandma skin" - I love kids' perfectly innocent perspectives on life...and the color of skin. This made my heart happy. Well, and sad. You know, being that the rainbow wasn't doing a bit of good for that poor stressed out woman and all... ;)

  2. What an adorable answer about the skin. Although, now I need to check in the mirror to see if *I* have Grandma skin! Ahhh!!

    It is sad that a little one was allowed to wander around like that. ANYTHING could have happened. So sad.

  3. I love how kids are blatantly honest. When I was in retail I saw kids left all the time. Being so close to Miami, I found it to be a cultural thing as well. (Sad and so not PC but that was my observation) We had a lot of Jamaican/Haitian mothers that just left their kids. FOR HOURS. One even left the parking lot and returned four hours later.



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