I'm a good friend. I think.
I am a good listener. I don't like to shoot my mouth off and give advice. I will just listen. Sometimes, that's all someone needs.
However, when you are a good listener, you become invisible.
When a listener needs to talk, no one is used to listening to you, so, you get ignored.
I have many friends. That have helped me in many ways. But, lately... I feel invisible.
I know, how can a mother of 4 children ever feel invisible? In my house, I couldn't be invisible if I tried.
My husband is my best friend and he hears about everything that's bothering me. But, men don't make the best girlfriends. They're too....manly.
Over the past few weeks, I literally have spoken, out loud, to human beings, about something that's on my mind--family issues, health issues--and have been totally 100% ignored.
Maybe I'm not loud enough?
But, with all this frustration that's in my mind right now, I'm liable to burst and really make a spectacle of myself.
Jarrett is a quiet kid. He goes with the flow. He listens. But, sometimes, he'll have a bad day and blow up over something stupid.
I understand completely.
The quiet ones are the ones you have to watch out for.
I'm sorry. :( You're definitely not invisible online. I look forward to reading your posts and am so disappointed when you don't update for several days. If you ever need to talk... :)
ReplyDeleteCould you possibly ask one of your friends, if you could just talk to them? Explain how sometimes you need to just talk and not be the one someone else comes to. It's just a thought. I hope whether online or in real life that you find someone to listen to you.
::::hugs::::
I feel ya, definitely. It's usually the go-to friend (the listner/peppy positive friend) that gets the shaft when *they've* got something bothering them. Not fun, or fair. It's especially hard when you want people to be concerned, but not because you yelled your concerns to them just so they would hear what you're saying; you want them to be concerned just because they care. Sometimes it's not *that* fun being the one no one worries about. Hang in there. You make a big enough spectacle of yourself and no one will ever overlook you again. ;)
ReplyDeleteEmail me. ANY time. I will 'listen' to you as long as you want to go on.
ReplyDeleteI'll even give you my telephone number if you're willing to talk between 10 and 12:30 on weekdays.. the rest of the time I can't talk 'cause I'm munchkin wrangling or trying to recover from my latest shift AS a munchkin wrangler.
And you're not invisible.
I haven't been around much but I will listen when I can. I check the traceymomster email address every day. The other one, not so much.
ReplyDeleteI feel invisible too. I want to go on strike and run away from home. Can I come to your place? LOL!! ;)
Hugs!!
I'm sorry I missed this post. I'm absolutely available to "listen" anytime you need me, too. I think what I like the most about blogging is the awesome friends that I've made. Even though I've never met them in person, I feel sometimes like there is a deeper understanding and connection than I have with some of my 'real-life' friends. Does that make any sense? Please, don't hesitate to email me if you need to.
ReplyDeleteAnd I hope your family and friends come around. Maybe this post will be a wake-up call? (Do they read your blog??)
This post makes me so sad because it is so true. I hope you feel heard very soon.
ReplyDeleteWe just had the exact same conversation with on of my good friends. She is a great listener... and I am usually the talker. She wasn't complaining about me, but boy did it hit home... all the time she was talking I was thinking "it could have been me". Now your post too... I think the universe is trying to tell me something.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, glad you are feeling better.
Oh, I have one of these, too.
ReplyDeleteI love him to death.