*This post is sensitive. I'm laying a lot on here. I am pretty sure the people that "inspired" this post do not read my blog. If, however, you recognize yourself or you think you know whom I am referring to, please keep it to yourself. Or, email me and I'll tell you if you're right! I would hate to have to make my page private because my personal thoughts get thrown in my face. I write a lot of stuff about the silly things my kids do. But, sometimes, I feel the need to write deeper things. This is one of those times.*
We are not a typical family. By most people's standards, anyway.
We go to church. In fact, most things come second to church. Sports. Social events. Various errands.
We will not miss church to do any of those things. We have actually taken our children out of a sport because practices and/or games interfered with church.
(We are not, however, those weird "cult" like people that walk around in a trance saying "God Bless You" to everyone they meet. Just clarifying)
We limit what our kids are exposed to. What they watch on t.v. What music they listen to. Even what stores they are allowed to go in to. Who they are alone with. Even what toys they are allowed to have.
(We are not,however, those weird "organic fiber, only learning toys allowed" like people that their kids grow up to be weird. Just clarifying.)
Our marriage is unique as well. As much crud as I give my husband, in reality, he's the boss and the head of our home. I do submit to him. It's not always easy, but I do. Luckily, he makes good decisions and 90% of the time, we make decisions together. There's not much I really have to "submit" to.
(We are not, however, those weird "Yes, Master" type people where the wife is scared to sneeze. Just clarifying.)
I guess what I'm getting at is this: We do things different but we're not extreme. We have our reasons.
All I ask is you respect it. Don't have to agree with it. I'm not asking you to change how you live or even change how you think.
But, please don't do your little "jabs" and comments about how you think my kids should be put back in public school (because YOUR kids turned out so well??) or that we should just go ahead and let our 7 yr. old watch that show because everyone else does it (Seriously, at your age, shouldn't you be able to resist peer pressure?) or question why we don't spend $50 on a pair of shoes for my 4 yr. old.
I realize it's hard to see someone living differently. Especially when it works. It's easy to point fingers and make harsh comments when their life is chaos. But, I imagine when you see a happy marriage and well adjusted, respectful and intelligent children, it's hard to realize it's because we've done things differently than you. It doesn't make us right and you wrong. It just IS.
Respect means acceptance. Just accept us and move on.
I know I have.