Nothing beats having friends. Good friends. Friends that are so good, they will watch all 4 kids for you. And, friends that are so good, they trust you to watch THEIR kids.
We have started a "date night" here. One week, B&C watch our kids, the next, we watch theirs. It's been wonderful.
Sometimes, the hubby and I go grab a bite to eat. Sometimes, we sit at home, eat Ramen and watch re-runs of "King of Queens". But, either way, we have some alone time.
When you have other people watch your kids, you basically open your self up. Make your parenting skills vulnerable to critique. To questioning.
Luckily, we have good enough friends, they laugh.
B&C have been building a shed. This particular night, they were working on painting the shed, while watching our kids + their two at the same time. Fortunately, they have a huge back yard with a huge swing set. So, it was "easy" to watch kids and paint at the same time. So to speak.
Jeven kept saying to B "Watch me do my tricks!!" to which B would say "In a minute. Hold on. I have to look at my painting."
Jeven would get impatient and again beg for her to watch him.
B was trying her hardest to paint and watch Jeven at the same time but it just wasn't happening.
Finally, Jeven was done waiting. He walked up to B and told her:
"Ya know? My mom can watch me without even looking at me. Sometimes, she doesn't even turn around! You should try it!"
Jeven did his trick.
B announced: "You're right!! It DOES work".
I think B should have THANKED me for the best parenting trick ever. Not laughed at me.
What are friends for?